Chinchilla Meat

I didn’t get testicle implants, and as far as I know, those are currently off the options table if you keep your factory parts (though they said the same about being able to both pee out your phallus AND get rod implants just a scant few years ago, and now that’s perfectly possible, so in a few years, who knows?).

Burying the clit is possible, though– that’s personally what I had done. Mine was originally so oversensitive, it couldn’t stand to be *touched* before my phalloplasty. Nowadays, eight months later, the phallus is *starting* to get some erotic nerves of its own, though my phallo was especially girthy, so that explains why it’s taken so long to get sensation back. [nod nod] I wouldn’t trade it for anything different, myself.

Woo! So glad to hear it’s going all right for you, even if our battle plans weren’t exactly the same. We’re all in this feeling-correct-afterwards journey together, yeah? 😀

One thing I’ve learned from the entire process of phalloplasty, from step 1 (“I’m going to start saving for one TODAY”): if nothing else, going through this process will teach you the patience of a *monk.*

That’s what I’d say is the hardest part of getting a phalloplasty, really– it’s not the pain, it’s not the money, it’s the *waiting.* Waiting for insurance companies to call you back to tell you how many therapists and/or psychiatrists you need letters from to have a case they’ll consider funding. Waiting to build up the funds. Waiting for a consultation date from a doctor. Then, hopefully, waiting for a surgery date after that.

I’m afraid I can’t tell you a dependable way to work through that besides the old “keep putting one foot in front of the other and *knowing* there’s a light at the end of that tunnel, even if you can’t see it yet” chestnut. It took me seven years, mostly fumbling around cluelessly, but I made it.

What I *can* offer is: times are changing, and WOW, can they ever change fast when they do. My surgeon, Dr. Crane, wasn’t even on the scene when I started looking for surgeons four years back– heck, not even *two* years. His apprentice, Dr. Chen, is turning out nigh-identical work, and started surgeries only months ago. My insurance wouldn’t touch me until six solid months of hounding down anyone who could tell me what “medically necessary” meant, but that line that allowed for trans surgeries ‘when medically necessary’ was added only recently. You seriously never know when someone’s going to move the goalposts in your favor.

Getting a phalloplasty takes a lot of hard work and dedication, but it’s doable. And like I’ve said before, I never knew the strength of willpower I had until I *needed* to have it. I wish both your partner and you the best of luck when discovering how very strong you both can be on this journey. :3

No trouble at all! When it comes to peeing, it doesn’t really feel any different from how it’s worked for me before– just let go of the clenching muscles involved, and it takes a few more seconds for the urine to come out, given the extra distance it has to travel. The big difference is, you can aim where you want it to go, now. (At least, you usually can. Urine streams really do have a mind of their own sometimes; mine likes to suddenly veer over to the extreme left.)

I won’t lie: there’s the issue of urine dripping into your underwear once you think you’re done that gets a little annoying, though this has happened more often right after my surgeries (both the phalloplasty itself and the stricture-fixing one). I’ve worn underwear guard shields from Depends these past couple weeks, which’ve worked wonders for catching any drips, but I’ve been told there’s a certain small amount of urine wet spots that *all* guys have to deal with after they pee, cis or otherwise.

As far as masturbation goes: patience is key. The nerves to the phallus can take months to regrow in the first place, and even then, what works for me now isn’t the “underhand/overhand stroke-it-inside-your-fist” move that media so often shows guys getting off from. In fact, when I’ve tried doing that, my own dong was so floppy, I started laughing at it because it looked so ridiculous.

Instead, what’s worked has been… exactly how I got off before the phalloplasty. I rub up against pillows or blankets, and that’s the only successful way I have so far (though believe me, I’m trying other ways! Fingers crossed). It takes a little longer to get going, now, but if you’re among the lucky folks who could have multiple orgasms before phalloplasty, I’m glad to say I’ve had no problems with having them *after* surgery as well.